Throughout my life I’ve had dozens of diaries.
It was a popular gift to give to a young girl, so every Christmas I’d get a shiny new notebook and was told to write about my day-to-day there every evening. On the first of January I’d be so excited about starting my new diary that I wouldn’t even wait for the evening!
I’d open it up, flick through it’s blank pages, grab my favourite pen and start writing about anything that popped into my head.
Unfortunately, as with anything, I’d grow tired of having to write in my diary every day, especially when I had a lot of homework to do and didn’t have the time or the energy to write anything.
None of my diaries lasted longer than a month.
However, I’ve recently started writing my thoughts down. I’m not calling it a diary. There are no dates or templates, it’s just a small A6 notebook where I’ve allowed myself to write about anything.
Sometimes I write small stories, sometimes lists, other times I write about random thoughts that have popped into my head. And I’ve come to realise that writing about my problems helps me to get over them.
When you write about something that’s worrying or bothering you it can be very therapeutic. For one thing, you let all your frustrations out onto paper, and that’s always a weight off your chest. Then, you analyse it in a calmer state of mind.
I find that after writing about whatever is upsetting me I tend to ask myself questions about the problem. By asking myself those questions, I resolve my problem or am able to find a better way to think about it.
Here are some examples of questions I ask myself:
- Why am I feeling the way I am?
- Is it really worth it spending time agonizing about this?
- Is there anything I can do to solve this?
Writing in about my problems is what I imagine talking to a therapist must feel like.
My notebook is my personal therapist. So is this blog in a way. They’ve helped me overcome a lot.
What do you do when you have a problem?
Here’s a sketch.